Calm and Confident

Bopha izimpendulo zakho zokusinda okungokwemvelo ukubuyisa ukukhathazeka nokungezwani futhi uzizwe uqiniseka ngokwengeziwe, ngokwemvelo. Ngokuya nge-CD ethandwayo enegama elifanayo, i-Calm and Confidence yenzelwe noma ngubani olwa nengcindezi enkulu futhi ongazethembi ngokwanele. Njengoba igama liphakamisa, lolu hlelo lokusebenza lwenzelwe ukukusiza uzizwe ukhululekile futhi uzethemba. Uhlelo lokusebenza luqukethe ukuzindla okusha okuqondisiwe okungu-10 okusekelwe ezimisweni zokwelashwa okuhlukumezekile. Izikhathi ezimbili eziphakathi nendawo yimizuzu engu-19 nengama-27 ngokulandelana izikhathi zokuzola nokuzethemba. Lezi zikhathi eziguqukayo zifaka ukunakwa okugxile, ukuvuselela izinzwa, ukuphumula nokuxhumeka kabusha nezinsizakusebenza zakho ukushintsha indlela ozizwa ngayo ngawe. Esinye iseshini ('Ukukhathazeka Ngokuphulukisa') sikhuluma ngendima ukunganakwa okungokomzwelo kwengane okukuyo ekugcineni ukukhathazeka. Amanye amaseshini aklanyelwe ukukhuthaza ukuzazi okwengeziwe, ukulawulwa ngokomzwelo nokuvikeleka ngokusebenzisa inhlanganisela ehlukahlukene yezindlebe, ezibukwayo nezingokwengqondo.

Ukuzwa ukuzola kubalulekile empilweni nasenhlalakahleni, kepha ngaphandle kokuzethemba kungumuzwa omuhle nje. Ukuzethemba kungumphumela wokuzizwa uzolile; kusho ukuthi uzibonela uxhunyiwe, uyazazi, unamandla, uphelele, futhi uyakwazi. Ukuzethemba kuzizwa kulungile ngemizwa yakho, izidingo zakho kanye nezinto ozifunayo - kumayelana nokuzizwa ukwazi ukuba yinguqulo yakho uqobo - hhayi ukuthi uphelele, kepha ungcono kakhulu 'wena'. Njengoba uLao Tzu asho, 'Impilo iyinto enkulu kunazo zonke. Ukwaneliseka yingcebo enkulu kunazo zonke. Ukuzethemba kungumngane omkhulu kunabo bonke. ’Ukuzola Nokuzethemba kuzokusiza ekutholeni umngane wakho wangaphakathi.

Ngokuya ngokutholwa kwakamuva maqondana nokwakheka kobuchopho nokusebenza, ukuzola nokuqiniseka kusebenzisa i-neuroscience ukuze ikufundise ukuthi ungaxhumana kanjani kahle kakhulu nohlelo lwakho lwezinzwa ukwenza ushintsho. Ukufunda okujule kakhulu kuvela kokuhlangenwe nakho, imisebenzi evuselela ukufunda kwezinzwa-ngokomzwelo. Lokhu kwehlukile ohlotsheni lokufunda oluthi ‘2 + 2 = 4’ olutholile esikoleni - kungukufunda okuvela ngokwenza okuthile okuguqula indlela ozizwa ngayo ngawe - okuholela ekuxhumaneni okusha, ezindleleni ezintsha ze-neural. Lolu hlobo lokufunda lukususa kokuthi ‘Anginalutho’ luye kokuthi ‘Ngiyaphila’; kusukela ‘Angikwazi’ kuya ‘Ngiyakwazi.’

Imfihlo yokuthola ukuzethemba okunjalo (lapho ingcindezi isendleleni) ukugxila ekugxileni + ekuvuseleleni amazwe omabili (i-BLS), inhlanganisela eyingqayizivele evuselela isekethe lokuvula ukwenziwa kokusebenza okwakhelwe ngaphakathi ohlelweni lwakho lwezinzwa. I-BLS ikwenza ukwazi 'ukuduna' impendulo yakho yokulwa nendiza futhi uguqule ukukhathazeka nokungezwani kube ukuphumula nokuzola, ngokwemvelo nangokuzikhandla. Ikwenza lokhu ngokusebenzisa amandla obuchopho bakho wokucubungula ulwazi. Lapho ubuchopho bakho buthola isikhuthazi esifana ne-BLS izinhlelo ezisongelayo ziyasebenza ngenkathi kukhonjwa ukuthi kwenzekani. Ngemuva kwemizuzwana embalwa, lapho ubuchopho bakho sebubona ukuthi abukho ubungozi (alikho ihlosi elinamazinyo anama-saber), lubuyela emazingeni ajwayelekile okuvusa, kuletha umzimba wakho nalo. Lokhu kwenzeka ngokwemvelo futhi ngokushesha, ngaphandle kokuthi uzame.

Imizwa ephumuzayo yokuphumula ayinciphisi kuphela ingcindezi - ibuye ikhuthaze ukuzethemba okwengeziwe. Uma isistimu yakho yezinzwa isesimweni sokukhululeka iyakwamukela ukuqinisekiswa kwangempela kwempilo okugxilwe emikhondweni yalolu hlelo lokusebenza, okuholela esimweni esihle ngokwengeziwe. Ingxenye emangalisayo ukuthi konke lokhu kwenzeka ngokwemvelo njengoba ungathola ubumnandi obutholakala ngokubuka ukushona kwelanga noma ukuhamba olwandle. Lo mphumela uqinisekiswe ngucwaningo.

Ukugqugquzela amazwe omabili kuyinto yokwelashwa kwe-Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) EMDR, ukwelashwa okuguqukayo kwe-PTSD. Le ndlela ibonakala ixazulula izinkumbulo nemizwa ehlobene nokuhlukumezeka ngokushesha okukhulu nangempumelelo kunezindlela zendabuko.

Uhlelo lokusebenza lungasetshenziselwa 'usizo lokuqala' ngokomzwelo, njengenhlanganisela yokwelashwa kwengqondo futhi njengengxenye yemizamo yesikhathi eside yokuzizwa uzethemba ngokwengeziwe. Ungafunda ukuzizwa wehlukile - wazi okuningi kunalokho ocabanga.