Incidentally, it is clear that this is not a competition between intelligence. The aim here is perhaps to make you start to notice that your thoughts have a logic that perhaps you even unknown, and seek to understand their own emotions is one of the most exciting activities of all.
People with well-developed emotional intelligence are generally considered self-confident, persistent, motivated and able to control themselves. It does not mean, however, that we are talking about people known as "kind" or "cute" or someone who is looking for constant approval - this is a fairly common confusion.