It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

I did read the physical book of "it didn't start with you" and learned a lot. It made me understand my family members behavior and went deeper into their experiences. A highly recommended book! At first, I decided to read it because I wanted to understand my brother and I achieved. Thanks a lot.

I have read hundreds of books. God helped me to see the lineage curses that lie deep into our bloodlines because of emotions that have been subliminally passed down and we don't even realize it. This is a deliver us from evil because of our ancestry kind of book. Life changing to say the least. I usually have one in my car to pass on if need be.

The beginning of this book offers an interesting introduction to epigenetics, grounded in research and science. However, the second half of the book, which toutes the author's program for supposedly healing from family trauma, devolves into victim-blaming, as the author insists that readers must foster warm and loving relationships with their parents, nevermind that these parents may be toxic or abusive. The author also, anecdotally, presents his version of self-help as a way to heal not just emotional and psychological wounds but also physical maladies, as he supposedly cured his eye disease through a better relationship with his parents. More likely, the cure came from the fact that he was privileged enough that he could sell a company and with the proceeds, travel around Asia for three years, suggesting that he probably also had access to quality medical care and nutritious food, which probably did more for his eyes than anything else.