Borrowed Time: An AIDS Memoir

Although this is a memoir of the HIV/AIDS epidemic beginning in the early 80s, I think that many people misread the purpose of this book. It (in my opinion) epitomizes strength and love through adversity. It also pays homage to his lover Roger. This book is encouraging, to say the least for anyone who has fought, or is fighting a critical illness alongside a loved one.

This is a profoundly moving memoir of the battle waged by author Monette and his companion, Roger Horwitz, as the latter is diagnosed with, and, fights, AIDS, from 1984 to 1986. Monette has crafted a detailed portrait of his relationship with Roger, their circle of family and friends, and, their respective work lives (Monette as a screenwriter and novelist; Horwitz as an attorney running a solo practice). Although the memoir can be somewhat depressing at times, given the inherent seriousness of the subject matter and the inexorable decline in Roger's health, the book also provides an optimistic affirmation of the great love that existed between Paul and Roger, their passion for poetry, literature, ancient cultures, travel and nature, and, their lust for life. The memoir really is a love story, at its core. As a straight man, I obviously recognize this book's provenance and importance as a chronicle of a gay-centric experience and an existential struggle in the 1980's, but, I think that this book still holds rewards, emotional poignancy and relevance for everyone, gay and straight, as a chronicle of what it's like to care for a loved one stricken with a fatal illness -- be it AIDS, cancer, or, whatever. The importance of supporting and loving family members in such a struggle is underscored by this book, as Horwitz's parents lend critical and unwavering support. This memoir is ultimately a chronicle of devotion between two people with a deep love for each other.