Stop Emotional Blackmail: Establish Boundaries and Protect Yourself from the Effects of Fear, Obligation, and Guilt

"I'll hurt myself if you don't do what I want."

"You owe me after all I've done for you."

"I'll tell everyone about your secrets if you don't…”

Do these phrases sound familiar to you?

The real meaning of these sentences, although it may trigger complex and confusing feelings, can be summed up in two simple words: emotional blackmail.

Emotional blackmail is a covert form of aggression in which a person close to us threatens, directly or indirectly, to punish us if we don't meet their expectations. It's a powerful form of manipulation that can be used by anyone, including co-workers, parents, friends, and partners.

Blackmailers can be cunning charmers and master manipulators. They may seem like kind and caring people at first, but they can quickly turn into a "black hole" willing to do anything to satisfy their needs.

They are experts at making you feel guilty or obligated to them. They may use threats, tears, or guilt trips to get what they want. They may also play the victim or make you feel like you're the only one who can help them.

Invisible chains that are hard to see and break can bind you to family, friends, colleagues, or partners.

The blackmailer may seem selfish, devious, or mean, but this is often not the case. In reality, they may be struggling with their own emotional issues and using blackmail as a way to cope.

Yes, I know this can be difficult to understand. If you know the gripping feeling of being emotionally blackmailed, then it's time to reassess how much you know about this form of manipulation. This book has everything you need to know about being the master of your own emotions and not letting anyone else take the reins.

Here's a sneak peek at what you'll learn in this book:

·       Understand how emotional blackmail works and how to identify it.

·       Learn the red flags of emotional blackmail.

·       Recognize the characteristics that make you a target for emotional blackmail.

·       Understand how emotional blackmailers exploit attachment and codependency.

·       Recognize the five personality types commonly associated with emotional blackmail.

·       Learn the seven steps that emotional blackmailers use to control their victims.

·       Take steps to stop being a victim and safeguard your emotional well-being.

·       Understand the lasting impact of emotional blackmail on your emotions.

·       Address emotional blackmail in the context of the internet and social media.

·       Use assertive communication to resist emotional manipulation.

·       Build resilience to effectively counter emotional blackmail and thrive in relationships.

They know your buttons and they'll keep pushing them if you don't stop them.

If you are tired of the sickening pain of emotional blackmail, fear, guilt, obligation, shame, and other twisted mind games, do yourself a favor. Take a deep breath, relax that knot in your stomach, and pick up this book. It will protect you for life, and more importantly, it can break the invisible chain that binds you to your "blackmailer."