A Well-Trained Wife: My Escape from Christian Patriarchy

· Macmillan Audio · Narrated by Tia Levings
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This gripping audiobook is a strong choice alongside books about high-demand religion, overcoming odds, and finding inner strength in impossible situations."—Booklist (Starred Review)

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“Today it hit me when he hit me, blood shaking in my brain. Maybe there wasn’t a savior coming. Maybe it was up to me to save me.”


Recruited into the fundamentalist Quiverfull movement as a young wife, Tia Levings learned that being a good Christian meant following a list of additional life principles––a series of secret, special rules to obey. Being a godly and submissive wife in Christian Patriarchy included strict discipline, isolation, and an alternative lifestyle that appeared wholesome to outsiders. Women were to be silent, “keepers of the home.”

Tia knew that to their neighbors her family was strange, but she also couldn't risk exposing their secret lifestyle to police, doctors, teachers, or anyone outside of their church. Christians were called in scripture to be “in the world, not of it.” So, she hid in plain sight as years of abuse and pain followed. When Tia realized she was the only one who could protect her children from becoming the next generation of patriarchal men and submissive women, she began to resist and question how they lived. But in the patriarchy, a woman with opinions is in danger, and eventually, Tia faced an urgent and extreme choice: stay and face dire consequences, or flee with her children.

Told in a beautiful, honest, and sometimes harrowing voice, A Well-Trained Wife is an unforgettable and timely memoir about a woman's race to save herself and her family and details the ways that extreme views can manifest in a marriage.

A Macmillan Audio production from St. Martin’s Press.

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5.0
4 reviews
Darcia Helle
July 18, 2024
“Holy matrimony,” this is not. A WELL-TRAINED WIFE is Tia Levings’ memoir, about her experiences being married to an abusive man, while living a cloistered life within a Christian fundamentalist church organization. -Men are in charge, always. -Women do not have autonomy. -Men are encouraged to “spank” their wives. -Women are expected to submit to their husbands, always, about everything. The insidious power of abuse is staggering. Add in religious extremism, and you have created an emotional and psychological prison. Walls and locks aren’t necessary. People often ask why abused women stay so long. Read this book, and you will begin to understand. I think it’s important to note that the author isn’t attacking Christianity here. Her faith, miraculously, stayed intact. It’s the specific religious sect and the specific people who were the problem. I received this book in both ebook and audiobook format. The author narrates the audiobook, which I normally love, but here I actually wish someone else had done the narrating. No offense to the author, but the experience was emotionally distant, straightforward reading. While I enjoyed listening to it, I felt more impact when I switched to reading the ebook myself. *I received a free eARC from St. Martin’s Press, via NetGalley, and a free audiobook download from Macmillan Audio.*
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About the author

Tia Levings writes about the realities in Christian fundamentalism, evangelical patriarchy, and religious trauma. She is also a podcaster, speaker, and content strategist. She’s been quoted in Salon, the Huffington Post, and Newsweek, and appeared in the hit Amazon docu-series, Shiny Happy People. Based in Jacksonville, Florida she is mom to four incredible adults and likes to travel, hike, paint, and daydream. Find her on social media @TiaLevingsWriter. Her memoir, A Well-Trained Wife, is her first book.

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