I’ve wrote a lot about … defining … and its importance so that we could have a beautiful existence.
In fact i do believe … and that’s my main message that analysing and defining with honesty all we like and dislike … we could reach a point when we could actually redefine our lives … into a better way.
And this theory could be available into any of the areas of our lives.
In our careers, with our friends … and even into a love story.
The only real problem is that in koi to one point …. defining and defining and defining too much … we come into a point when we actually look like people … which are non stop complaining.
Yes … somehow all looks a lot with a … concert of complains.
And we actually …. ruin all.
One of the 2 partners will simple say … “I had enough … “.
Today … i smile cause i’ve been into this position … on both sides … in many of the relationships i’ve been involved in.
In business… in love … and any other area.
So … all becoming ridiculous… we come now into the position of asking … what the hell we do … to be able to improve the connection without destroying it?!
When is the best moment when we need to stop doing that?!
Why we try to define on and on and on things which cannot be improved?!
Can we actually accept that the relationship has its own limits?!
Can we avoid being ridiculous… clearly being defined of our partners into that way?!
Can we improve a relationship without a deep analysis and define with honesty all?!
In fact my list of questions is even much, much longer … but into the end we need to somehow conclude … so …
Most probably … all we define is about the dirty energies which we discover while interacting …. but we are never aware of the fact that all is maybe …. a reflection.
Yes … a reflection.
One that becomes clear while in deep connections… but we are not able to become aware of the fact that all we don’t like into the relationship… are parts of us that needs to be redefined.
We should firstly analyse and define ourselves… and keep in mind that into a mirror we won’t be able to change the reflection…. unless we change.
And …. It’s so damn simple …
But .. what is funny …. is that even if we understand the theoretical concepts… on the stage of reality … we forget about all.
So … we just complain.
We don’t like that … or that …. or that etc etc…
All looks indeed like a pathetic concert of illusory complains … which into the end simple ruins … the relationship itself.
On and on …. and on.
I’ve started to write my first book at 16 … but then … realizing i could not publish it … i’ve abandoned the idea of being a … writer.
20 years later … i’ve started to write again … believing i will finally succeed … but i’ve failed one more time … not getting the success i was chasing for.
Another 5 years later … i’ve started one more time to write … but this time … more as a therapy.
It’s what i’ve defined as … self therapy.
I was analyzing and defining lots of weird ideas … that were a lot related to me … and my own soul.
I totally forgot that i was chasing for success.
I was simple writing my thoughts … in essays … becoming this way … maybe not a writer …. but what many define as … an essayist.
This is not a poet … and not a writer.
Or maybe is kind of a poet that is incapable of writing poetry … but is still expressing his thoughts … into a similar way … as a poet.
And is not a writer … cause have not the ability to write for too long time … about the same subject.
But maybe i am not an essayist… either.
I am just an ordinary person … that could be better defined … as a thinker.
Analyzing … and defining my life … practicing this process called … self therapy … i started to understand life … and the way to better paths which i should follow.
And i’ve wrote … and wrote … and wrote … realizing one day that i’ve published tens of books …. not really understanding how the hell I’ve succeeded doing that.
Today i dare to recommend writing … as a therapy.
I could even say … it’s a simple way of understanding who we are … but also a process that could help us … heal our souls.
I personally continue to … write.
It’s in fact … a non ending story that … at least for myself … will probably continue for the rest of my life.
But over all … i am glad … i am doing it.
I continue my philosophical journey … not being able to define myself for clear as a writer or an essayist… but …
Well …. most probably… i am on a good path.
And … i would dare to recommend to everyone … all what i am doing today.